Tranquility Tips

Here's how to keep your cool even if life hands you lemons.

• Take a deep breath.
  Studies show that large intakes of oxygen definitely help to calm one’s nerves. Before blowing up, take five minute and concentrate on your breathing—it’ll help you relax and deflect your anger.
• You’re not alone.
  Others have gone through the same hullabaloo as you have. Food for thought: Do you think those girls wouldn’t be as self-confident as they are now if they hadn’t experienced those sticky situations.
• Shrug it off.
  Or better yet, laugh it off. Having a large dose of humor will let you see the bright side of every situation, regardless of how embarrassing, moronic, or disastrous it may be.
• Have an outlet.
  Take up kickboxing, painting or any activity that’s totally different from what you do at work. When life starts to unravel, you can hop to the nearest gym or pour out your feelings in your journal. A good workout of your body and mind helps you to decompress.
• Learn and move on.
  Sure, you may have lost a bit of pride, a chip off your ego, and plenty of money, but you’ll have gained something that’s priceless: wisdom and maturity.
• Tell someone who cares about you.
  They’ll laugh it out with you or listen until you’re over it. It’s good to just let it out to people you can totally be with yourself.
  

From His Point Of View: Boyfriend Defense 101

They may have their flubs, but this guy reveals that boyfriends aren’t as awful as you think.

The pundits are right: Men and women are from two different planets. Somehow, we never seem to fully understand what we want; or if we do, our intentions are taken the wrong way. As unbelievable as it may sound, we guys are giving our best to be the boyfriends you want us to be.

Fine, we never remember the important dates: History was never one of our best subjects, so we hope you understand when we forget our ‘month-saries,’ or where or how we first met. But we have our own special moments with you that are worth remembering in our own ways, like having an awesome bucket of fried chicken together or laughing in unison during a really funny movie. We may not remember what you were wearing on our first date, but we do remember you looked great.

We’re really more sensitive that we look: Maybe we suffer from the lack of pathos. But don’t think that we aren’t trying our best to be more perceptive. We can tell whenever you’re upset, annoyed, or ‘just don’t feel like it,’ but we’re not great with talking things out so we let you ride it out instead. Given this, you got to give us credit for the times when we sit with you to sulk off a problem, and when we coddle you until you feel better, ‘cause that takes a lot out of a guy.

Double takes? Meaningless: No matter how much you try to bring us back into conversation whenever a bevy of beauties walk past us, swooning and head turning will always be some of our so-called ‘ habits.’ We’re programmed to check out other women—ask National Geographic—but that doesn’t mean we don’t find you attractive—the truth is, we only have eyes for you.

Even if we don’t say it, we think you’re gorgeous: Admiring you every minute of the day wouldn’t be very sincere of us, and similar to the words ‘I love you,’ saying ‘you’re beautiful,’ has more meaning when it’s blurted out unexpectedly. Yup, it’s when you least expect it: We’ll steal a glance, smile when you complain about how ugly you look today, tuck a lock of hair behind your ear—this is our own little way of expressing a lot of admiration.

We may be cheesy, but we’re honest: We’re real men—not the romance novel kind with perfect words to woo a woman. When we’re composing statements of love, it’s on-the-spot. If it comes out baduy, we’re sorry. A slick-sentenced guy doesn’t mean half of what he says anyway. If we say you’re our ‘one and only,’ we’re telling the truth.

Andrea Christina

Nothing is more fulfilling than seeing her after 9 long months of waiting…

I love you, Andrea Christina!

A New Year's Resolution

I have forgiven you long time ago...

…and you’re not even saying sorry.

December Babies

I’m glad there’s you to smile at me
And brighten up my day,
To share my thoughts and understand
The things I do and say.

I’m glad there’s you to laugh with me
At ordinary things,
To show me what is special,
In everything life brings.

I’m glad there’s you to be with,
And I think it’s time you knew,
Just how happy you have made me,
And how glad I am there’s you!

Happy Birthday, you all.. Cheryl, Hux, Aasta, Chill, Papa Cesar, Mirma, Diane, John, Annie and Hux!

November Babies

You all deserve happiness in life… Enril, Chelou, Cel, Cheri, Apple.

Blessed be.

A Miracle called friendshipDwells within the heart
You don't know how it happensOr when it gets it's start
But the happiness it brings you,Always gives you a special lift
Then you realize that friendship

Is one of God's most precious gifts!

Happy Birthday!

Getting Better

"Decide to be nicer to yourself and take your time with this one. You’ve just come out of a relationship barely breathing; maybe you should give your heart a little warm up before jumping right back in."

Understand that the moving on process varies from case to case. For some people, it can take a few months or years. Others need only a few days. Accept the fact that in your case it's happened already.


– Tara FT Sering, Getting Better

Books, Books And More Books

I recently finished reading a short novel titled Getting Better by Tara FT Sering. Its a not so new novel by her, nevertheless, I found it really witty and at the same time, you learn something substantial from it. I’m on to its sequel, Almost Married.

Check it out girls. Have fun reading.

Happy Birthday: October Babies

"Happy Birthday" means much more
Than have a happy day.
Within these words lie lots of things
I never get to say.
It means I love you first of all,
Then thanks for all you do.
It means you mean a lot to me,
And that I'm proud of you.
But most of all, I guess it means
That I am thinking of
Your happiness on this, your day,
With pleasure and with all my love.

October babies: Wally, Joan, Bobby, Tita Thess, Nilda, Julius, and Brew

Sweet Love

How sweet it is to be loved by you..

Sam

I love you SAM!!!

My tired prince charming.. In love ako, in love ako!

Pinoy Big Brother

Pinoy Big Brother House

Omigosh!

Have you watched last night's PBB episode? Hihimatayin ako kay SAM! He's so cute and adorable (Check out the exclamation points!)! He danced the PBB theme song while he was in the shower 'coz that was a part of their daily task. Parang gusto ko siyang samahan sa shower room.. Eheh!

Kinikilig talaga ko.. Sorry, hindi ko mapigilan!

A Taste Of Heaven

I love Heaven 'N Eggs!

Yum, yum, yum! Enjoy and feast!

The Good News.

I had a soothing rub last night, which makes it a really good night sleep for me and a pleasant first light when I woke up this morning. I was excited, tensed at the same time. I’m scheduled for a Congenital Anomalies Ultrasound at 830am.

We were first to arrive when we got to the consulting room. The assistant said that the Doctor’s on his way and will be there any moment. I sat down, read the Sunday’s paper and tried to appease myself while waiting. Ten minutes or so, the doctor walked in the room and his assistant called on my name. Nag-sign of the cross pa ko habang pinapahiga ako and nagpe-prepare yung doctor ng gamit niya. While he was gliding the instrument on my belly at a snail's pace, he started to ask about my pregnancy. I answered each and every question, and then I slowly felt at ease. “Doc, makikita nyo na po if girl or boy sya?” I asked. “We’ll see, looks like a girl..” The doctor said. “Complete po yung fingers nya sa kamay and paa? Buo naman po yung lahat ng parts niya?” I realized, ang dami kong tanong, hindi naman kaya makulitan tong si doc?

Until at last he smiled and looked my way, “Tin, its a baby girl! Nakita ko na organ nya, gumalaw eh. Due to deliver is January 19, 2006.” It seemed the room was suddenly filled with cheerful and light thoughts. We were so, so pleased to hear the good news. Before this schedule, I prayed. I asked Him, “Lord, girl or boy, I just want him/her normal and healthy.. A healthy, safe and normal delivery for me, too.” God has given me so many blessings, I’m so thankful.

I would like to share this good news to all of you, my family, my friends, and to all who frequents this site. I know you too are as pleased to be part of this wonderful episode in my life.

More updates soon. Thank you!

My Dating Discoveries

After a four-year exclusive relationship, I suddenly found myself single and thrust into the world of dating. Thing is, I never was one to ‘date’—I wasn’t even clear on the concept of dating! All I knew was that there was a time when it was all quite simple: The Ligaw stage came first, followed by an MU (mutual whatever) stage, and finally, you were ‘on.’ These dating dynamics have definitely changed, but being the trooper that I was, I decided to give today’s dating a go. What did I have to lose?

I entered the dating circuit with gusto and tried different approaches, hoping to get a result that was favorable.

Playing the field. I started out as a serial dater. I went out on a string of dates—from setups with blind dates to familiar faces. The thing is, there was never a follow-up date. Great meals, great conversation—that was it. I then became a juggler, dating two men at the same time. The variety kept things interesting, but confusing: I had to take a second figure out what movie I watched with whom, and if I had already told one guy or the other my latest kwento. Several dates later and nowhere near Mr. Right or a committed relationship, I became a friend with benefits. Only one word can sum this whole experience: disaster. I decided to take a break—the whole idea of being constantly on the lookout for The One was exhausting.

Yet, the experiences didn’t go to waste. When I took on the persona of what I fondly call The Dating Demon, I had the opportunity to see what I really value. Dating had become a process for finding my self. The more encounters I had with different personalities, the more I discovered how and why I related to people the way I did.

I learned to be confident with what was right for me and what wasn’t I was even dating somebody for a few months but after awhile, I was no longer comfortable with the situation. I wanted something more, while he just wanted things the way they were. Because I knew I wasn’t ready to wait for him, I made the decision to stop seeing him. It hurt that he didn’t want me as much as I did him but I’m happier now. When I stepped back, I saw that the lifestyle he had was something I couldn’t really adjust to.

Dating me. I got to know myself and be the person I wanted to be. When you’re not committed to someone or even looking for someone, you give yourself the wonderful chance to just prioritize me. My time wasn’t dependent on anybody else’s schedule. I saw who I wanted to see. I did what I wanted to do. I had become self-sufficient and I didn’t need to depend on anybody but myself. Moreover, I learned that it’s okay to pass up on a date when all you want to do is hang out with the girls to watch a chick flick.

It’s been awhile since I started dating. It was awkward at first, but things are now nice and steady. Every twist and turn that came my way only gave me the courage to let nobody else define me but me. To anyone who is just about to date or is in the middle of the dating process, all I have to say is, this is your time. Make the most of it.